The Great Competition

The Great Competition

The year was 1929. That fall, the stock market crash set off The Great Depression. Also that fall, the mothers of two cousins-to-be found out they had identical due dates: April 6, 1930.

And so began The Great Competition.

I’ve never thought of my mom as a competitive sort. Well, all except when it came to her poetry.

Dorothy and Mom, 1975
That’s Mom on the right, smiling at her First Place Award for Poetry certificate from the Midwest Writers Workshop in 1975, held at Ball State University. Looking on is dear friend Dorothy, who would ask Mom to be the Matron of Honor at her wedding to Will Kennedy in 1979. Mom was delighted to have been the matchmaker for that long and happy marriage!

The Great Competition involved Grandma Cassidy and her sister-in-law Ethel Cassidy Hungerford. Both babies would be the first born to each couple.

Was it simply a friendly competition? I never got to meet great-aunt Ethel, but I sure knew Grandma; I’ll just bet it was taken seriously.

Seriously enough that Dad heard about it as an adult.

“Richard was a great guy,” he remembers.

The babies were both born on April 6, 1930.

Mom & Richard, September 1931
Cousins Joan and Richard in September 1931. Impressive playpen!

Unlike Mom, Richard moved around as a child and grew up in multiple states. From New Haven, his family moved to New Jersey and then West Hartford, Connecticut. Following Trinity College, Richard went to dentistry school in Baltimore, married his high school sweetheart, and joined the Air Force. He served in Vietnam as an oral surgeon and eventually went on to teach at Creighton University in Omaha.

Dr. Richard Hungerford

Of course, there is no competition in lives well lived.

Both Mom and her cousin lived long lives, enjoyed happy marriages, and loved their abundance of children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren. I’d say we can call that one a draw.

But who was born first?

Joan Virginia Cassidy
Although they were born on the same day, Richard was a gentleman from the start. Ladies first! Grandma gave birth a few hours before great-aunt Ethel.

Happy 90th birthday to the April 6 Cousins, now both in heaven. Your families miss you dearly!

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2 thoughts on “The Great Competition

  1. I am Kathy Murphy, daughter of John Mulligan, stepson of Marcella Cassidy. I remember Ethel and Bob Hungerford. Ethel was always lovely to me, and every time I visited, she gave me my choice of a Storybook Doll out of her collection from a large china cabinet. She had a live-in housekeeper, Anna, who was very nice and was like a family member. Bob was a very jovial guy.

    1. Hi Kathy – thank you for sharing your memories! There are several other posts about Ethel and Marcella’s families on this blog – please let me know if you need help finding them. ~ Paula (we’re second cousins, I think!)

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